On behalf of The Law Office of Wickersham and Bowers posted in Family Law on Wednesday August 11th, 2021
It can be difficult to know what is best for children or how best to keep them safe during an ongoing divorce. It is important to understand the rights and responsibilities that are in place from the moment a divorce petition is filed so that children are kept safe and both parties can come out of the divorce with their parental rights and relationships intact.
Know the Rules During a Divorce
Regardless of the situation, it is important to know that once a legal separation is granted and divorce proceedings begin, neither parent is allowed to take children out of the state in which the divorce is occurring.
This is done to safeguard the children and to determine the state of the family at the time of the divorce.
What this means though is that planned trips, vacations, or other activities may have to be put on hold while the process is ongoing.
Be Honest and Forthright
It is important to include both parents in the divorce discussion and to be as open and honest as possible without blaming or shaming either parent during the conversation.
It also helps to allow children to express their feelings and concerns as well as ask any questions they may have about what is going to happen moving forward. It is important to remember that while the divorce is going on, it’s not a good idea to discuss custody or living arrangements unless the courts have already made a decision regarding those facts.
The goal is to make the process as smooth as possible for the children while handling the logistics of the divorce.
Never Use Children as Intermediaries or Bargaining Chips
Remember that the divorce should be settled by the parents, the courts, and the legal representatives on either side. This means that children should largely be kept out of the legal proceedings.
Using the children to communicate with your spouse should never be an option. Neither is using your children to gain leverage or information on your spouse.
At Wickersham and Bowers we know that divorces can be messy and painful endeavors, but that’s why it’s important to have the right legal representation to help make the process as simple and pain free as it can be.
If you’re considering a divorce, contact us today for a consultation.
