Not all custody arrangements work well when parents are locked in constant conflict. For families dealing with ongoing disputes over schedules, school decisions, or healthcare, parallel parenting offers a more workable option.
Instead of trying to co-manage every detail, each parent handles their own time with the child independently. Communication is limited and often done through parenting apps.
Parallel parenting allows high-conflict parents to disengage from one another while still focusing on their children’s needs. Ongoing parental conflict can cause serious psychological and social problems for children.
What Is Parallel Parenting?
Parallel parenting is a structured approach used when co-parents struggle to communicate without conflict. Each parent sets their own rules and routines during their scheduled time, and direct contact is kept to a minimum, usually limited to email or co-parenting apps. The aim isn’t to foster agreement, but to shield the child from tension.
In some high-conflict cases, a Florida court may appoint a parenting coordinator under § 61.125. That person, often a trained mediator or attorney, helps parents stick to the plan, resolve logistical issues, and reduce the likelihood of ongoing disputes affecting the child’s well-being or daily care.
How to Build a Successful Parallel Parenting Plan
A good parallel parenting plan removes as much guesswork as possible. Start with a schedule that leaves no room for confusion:
- Specific pickup times
- Clear drop-off locations
- Holiday rotation everyone can follow
Communication rules are just as important. Many parents choose a written method, like email or a parenting app, to keep conversations brief and focused on the children.
The plan should also spell out who makes which decisions. One parent might handle medical choices while the other manages school matters, or both may need to agree on major issues.
Families change over time, so the plan should allow updates as children grow. Some parents eventually shift to a more cooperative style, while others rely on parallel parenting long-term when conflict remains high.
We’re Here to Help
Parallel parenting can give structure and stability to families dealing with ongoing tension. At Wickersham & Bowers, we work with parenting coordinators and mental health professionals to build plans that put children first. To talk through your options, call 386-252-3000.
