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Can I Date Other People Before My Divorce Is Final?

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On behalf of The Law Office of Wickersham and Bowers posted in Family Law on Wednesday August 10th, 2022.

After a divorce, dating can be challenging. If you recently separated and are now returning to the dating world, you may be wondering “can I date someone new before my divorce is final?”

The Short Answer

Yes. 

There is no legal prohibition against beginning a romantic relationship before a divorce is final. In any jurisdiction, it is not necessary to prove one party’s fault for a couple to obtain a divorce. The new person you are dating doesn’t have to be concerned about being accused of adultery in the divorce proceeding.

Will It Complicate Your Proceedings?

It might. 

Dating is defined by law as one-on-one social interaction with another person. There is technically no difference between platonic and romantic or sexual contact. However, romantic or sexual relationships are the ones that garner attention and could complicate your divorce case, practically speaking.

Even if you are formally separated, divorce attorneys advise against dating during the divorce process. There is a possibility that it might raise the cost and stress of the divorce trial. If you’re still married, you shouldn’t date anyone else. However, once a person has physically and legally separated their spouse, judges rarely penalize them for starting a new relationship—sexual or otherwise.

Remember, it can be quite challenging to date while a divorce is still pending. It’s possible that dating someone new won’t impact the divorce process, but consider if it’s truly worth the risk. Before starting a new relationship, speak with your lawyer if you genuinely want to end your marriage. You can get legal advice regarding the repercussions of dating while your divorce is still pending. You may be advised to keep your connection private and try not to be seen together in public if you are dating someone. Definitely do not introduce your children to a new partner before the final divorce decree.

Get All of Your Divorce Questions Answered

The staff at Wickersham and Bowers is accessible right now to respond to your inquiries if you’re considering sacking your marriage. Our attorneys are skilled, competent, and sympathetic with years of combined legal expertise. We’ll work hard to get you the best result while assisting you in understanding your legal rights. 

What Can and Cannot Be Included in a Living Will

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On behalf of The Law Office of Wickersham and Bowers posted in Estate Planning on Wednesday August 10th, 2022.

Living wills and other advance directives are legally binding documents that outline your preferences for medical treatment if you become incapacitated. 

Advanced directives are not only for those in their advanced years. All people should create these documents since unexpected end-of-life circumstances might occur at any age.

By making arrangements in advance, you can receive the medical treatment you desire and prevent needless suffering. The document also frees up caregivers from the pressure of making decisions during trying or grievous times. 

What Can Go In a Living Will

Be specific about your wishes for medical procedures while drafting your living will. Take into account your options for each of the following:

Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation (CPR): using a defibrillator or someone performing chest compressions to restart your heart.

Life Support: maintaining your life through artificial nutrition, hydration, medicine administration, and ventilator support.

Mechanical Ventilation: a device that takes over breathing by supplying the lungs with air.

Artificial Nutritional Feeding: a tube that extends into the stomach and delivers nutrients.

Dialysis: a process where blood is cleansed by passing through a machine.

Intravenous: injections of medication, antibiotics, or antivirals using a tube or needle into the veins.

End-of-Life/Palliative Care: Healthcare professionals can manage your pain to make you comfortable while respecting your preferences for medical treatment, such as avoiding intrusive procedures.

Organ Donation: You must be briefly put on life support if you choose to donate your organs. You will need to obtain an exemption for the organ transplant operation if you decide not to be put on life support.

What You Can’t Include in Your Living Will

You need a few things in conjunction with your living will, but they are not included as part of it. 

Do Not Resuscitate (DNR): Although you might have said in your living will whether you wish to be revived, a DNR is a particular directive that a doctor must write and sign. 

Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment (OLST):  An OLST is primarily used for those who have been told they have a severe or fatal illness, are elderly, or both.

Health Care Proxy: A Health Care Proxy or other Medical Power of Attorney document must be used to designate the person you want to act as your Health Care Proxy (also known as a Power of Attorney for Health Care and a Health Care Representative) to make decisions on your behalf if you become incapacitated. 

Myths about Collaborative Divorce

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On behalf of The Law Office of Wickersham and Bowers posted in Family Law on Tuesday July 12th, 2022.

The benefits of collaborative divorce are numerous. It enables you and your spouse to control the process and make all crucial choices. You can decide where and with whom your children will reside as well as how the marital estate will be divided. The outcome is a customized divorce agreement made by you and your spouse — not a judge.

However, because collaborative divorce is relatively new, a few myths are circulating about the process. This article will bust some of the three biggest ones:

Myth: I need a “bulldog” lawyer

Most people think of divorce as a nasty process and think they need an attorney that is ready to get dirty.

The truth is, you don’t need to pit yourself against your former spouse during the divorce process. While defending you, your collaborative lawyer won’t disparage your spouse. Instead, you, your spouse, and both your lawyers collaborate to find solutions to the problems brought on by your separation.

Myth: We need to be in complete agreement

Like any other divorcing people, couples that go through the collaborative process have arguments and problems in their marriage. Throughout the process, a group of experts will collaborate with you and your spouse to identify practical answers to those issues. The only requirements are your honesty, trustworthiness, and willingness to bargain in good faith to discover solutions that benefit your family.

Myth: Collaborative divorce is expensive

Although a collaborative divorce will cost you money, a contested divorce will cost more. Each spouse typically hires a lawyer and a divorce coach in a collaborative divorce. A financial expert and a child evaluator are two examples of impartial experts that the parties jointly hire. If necessary, mediation sessions can be planned and are also beneficial. While that may sound like a large and expensive team, a collaborative divorce avoids the costs of going to trial.

Is collaborative divorce right for you?

Collaborative divorce can assist you and your spouse with respectfully resolving any differences. You will collectively divide the family’s assets in a way that both parties find acceptable and establish a custody schedule that will pave the way for a successful co-parenting relationship. 

Contact us for a consultation if you would like to discuss the collaborative divorce process further.

The Dangers of DIY Estate Plans

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On behalf of The Law Office of Wickersham and Bowers posted in Estate Planning on Tuesday July 12th, 2022.

DIY projects are popular, but is DIY estate planning a good idea? 

Do-it-yourself estate planning has become increasingly popular in recent years — especially since a global pandemic has people worrying about the future in new ways. DIY planning seems like an excellent way to save money. People often think grabbing forms from the internet will be sufficient. However, there are some reasons why this is one area where doing it yourself may not be the best option. 

Does It Meet Your State’s Requirements?

Each state’s estate planning laws are unique, and the rules that apply from year to year can change significantly. Unfortunately, there is no real way to verify if a DIY estate plan you download from the internet complies with your state’s laws, even if it promises to do so. 

Most websites that provide do-it-yourself estate planning disclaim any liability for any paperwork that doesn’t function appropriately after settling your estate. On the other hand, an estate planning law company assumes full responsibility for the documents they design and will be on hand to help if any problems occur. They are available to testify in support of your objectives should it be required. They can review the notes they took during your discussions with your beneficiaries after your death.

It’s More Than Just a Will

Most people mistakenly believe that having a will is all that is necessary to establish an estate plan. Even if you create a DIY will that is legal and complies with state regulations, it’s unlikely that it will be sufficient to meet your estate planning needs. Wills are only one component of a comprehensive estate plan.

Besides, wills are usually not a one-and-done situation.

Wills require updating. You must update your will to reflect any changes resulting from having children, getting married or divorced, or acquiring a sizable sum of money. It will be much simpler for you to make these modifications if a professional is accessible to assist you.

Get the Help You Need

In the end, assurance that your legacy is safeguarded motivates most people to make an estate plan with an experienced attorney instead of relying on internet research and DIY forms.

Who Decides Where The Kids Will Go to School?

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On behalf of The Law Office of Wickersham and Bowers posted in Family Law on Thursday June 9th, 2022.

Who Decides Where The Kids Will Go to School?

School-age children are required to get an education in a public, private, or home school setting. If a child attends a public school, the residential living area determines where the child will attend. However, knowing where the kids will attend school becomes slightly more complicated if you and your spouse are divorced.

If one parent has custody of the child for the majority of the time, the kid will most likely attend school in that parent’s school district. However, if both parents share 50/50 custody, a decision must be made. 

If you and the other parent cannot reach an amicable decision on where your child should attend school, you may need to seek legal assistance. A skilled child custody attorney can help, especially if the court will be involved in the decision.

Factors the court will consider:

  • if the parent exhibits school system knowledge and has looked into the alternatives
  • if the custodial parent shows cooperation with the non-custodial parent in decision-making processes
  • the logistics of getting the children back and forth to school 
  • the ability to express the reasons why the school is the best choice for the child

What If I Am Left Out of School Decisions?

You can give the court order showing your parental rights to the school. The teachers and administration must involve you if you have a court order that provides you access to your child’s school information and gives you decision-making power.

Will the School Correspond with Both Parents?

In most cases, it is the responsibility of each parent to contact the school and establish communication channels. The custodial parent is not responsible for ensuring the non-custodial parent is kept informed.

Does the Non-custodial Parent Have to be Listed as an Emergency Contact?

When one parent has sole physical and legal custody, the other parent does not have to be listed as an emergency contact unless the court order mandates otherwise. 

If you and your former partner need assistance making school decisions for your children, you should consult with an attorney that is well-versed in these decisions. Making decisions regarding schooling should be handled efficiently in order to have the most negligible negative impact on the children.

Mistakes Parents Make When Naming Guardians

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On behalf of The Law Office of Wickersham and Bowers posted in Estate Planning on Thursday June 9th 2022.

When putting together your will, one thing that must decide if you are a parent is what happens to your children should the worst happen to you and your partner. Your estate is one thing, but the well-being of your children is quite another! Should you become incapacitated, pass away, or otherwise unable to provide for your minor children, your will should include the names of suitable legal guardians you have chosen to care for them.

While it is a difficult thing to consider for any parent, the importance of the task makes it one of the more significant life decisions. Before naming a guardian, consider these mistakes many parents make.

Naming a Couple 

Some parents name a couple to raise their children if a guardian becomes necessary. However, what if you don’t want both members of the couple to raise your children? It is important to specify your wishes for your children’s guardianship should the couple be broken up or one of them passed away. 

Failing to Prepare for Short Term Needs

It is good to appoint short-term guardians to look after your child until your long-term guardian can take custody. An interim guardian, such as a nanny or trusted neighbor, can temporarily assume guardianship of your child and offer immediate care in the event of an emergency. If the police are contacted, and you don’t have temporary guardians, your child may be taken from your house and placed in protective custody.

Documenting Too Few Details

Everyone has different views on how children should be raised. Do you have a school in mind for your children? What about a particular diet? Religious beliefs? Your appointed guardian should respect your wishes as a parent, but they can’t respect them if they don’t know what they are.

Not Appointing a Financial Guardian

Often, parents forget to designate someone to manage the money they are leaving behind for the children. If you’re leaving money behind — which you should be, even if all you have is a life insurance policy — you should put it in trust for your children and appoint a trusted person to handle your children’s finances until they come of age.

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